In today’s episode Nicholas sits down with his wife Amanda and they talk about what it takes to have a badass relationship. They share everything from the insight they’ve gained from their personal mentors, the books they’ve read, and lessons they’ve applied. As well as talking about what it takes to be an entrepreneur with a successful business life while maintaining a healthy relationship.

Timestamped Show Notes:

• [ 02:30 ] What the entrepreneur needs in a relationship.
• [ 03:45 ] Higher priority for your relationship
• [ 05:00 ] Experts.
• [ 07:12 ] Values
• [ 08:36 ] When your life vision changes.
• [ 09:58 ] Personality Tests and Love Languages.
• [ 15:11 ] Men and Women.
• [ 18:45 ] Strengths and Weaknesses.
• [ 19:30 ] Communication and Assumption
• [ 27:00 ] Working Together.

Takeaways:

• Many entrepreneurs have gone through multiple divorces, why? Entrepreneurs often get bored in romantic relationships because similar to other aspects of their lives entrepreneurs are always looking for next best thing and look for other stimulation. The core thing is always finding the right person with a personality that is conducive to yours, keeping you on your toes, that’s exciting, enthusiastic, and happy to change with you through life. For someone who is always implementing, innovating or changing you need someone to do that with you.
• Taking 100% responsibility for your relationship means being 100% in your relationship and invested in it. Having a higher priority for the relationship over the things you want to do or achieve will give you a stronger and more solid bond, you may run into disagreements on the way but as long as the relationship is more important to you that situations and circumstances you can get through those disagreements. Have a relationship that is compatible from the get-go, with the lifestyles you want to create and live. Friendship interactions give you the opportunity to get to know those important key things about one another before becoming intimate.
• Values: Get to know what the other person is all about, what they’re dreams are, what is important to them. Ask questions about their faith, spirituality, finances, business, career paths, health, the way they eat, what they like. Get clear on what they’re values are. Always check in with one another because as you grow different things will be important at different times, changing together and having that communication is important.
• Whatever you have you can give to a relationship, when you don’t have something you can't offer it in a relationship. If you don’t have self-love you can’t give love in a relationship. If you don’t have compassion and empathy for yourself, you can’t give that in a relationship. The biggest key is to work on yourself to become a better person and then a better partner.              

Resources:

• Facebook Group.
• 16 Personality Test  / Disc Test
• Love Languages Test.
• Danny Silk: Keep Your Love On.
• John Gray: Men are from Mars Women are from Venus.
• Dr. Robert Glover: Relationship Expert.

Today we talk with Connor Beaton. Connor Beaton is the creator and founder of Man talks, a company the is geared towards empowering men and their personal and professional development. Connor drops a ton of knowledge bombs all the way through this episode from finding your purpose to honestly auditing the areas in your life that you need to improve.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

• [ 01:02 ] Men’s Companies: Empowering Men
• [ 03:00 ] How Man Talks Came to Be.
• [ 06:51 ] Responsibility for Social Change.
• [ 10:14 ] Facilitating Successful Men.
• [ 14:12 ] Finding Your Purpose: Defining Moments
• [ 20:28 ] Honest Audit.
• [ 23:00 ] The Importance of Mentors and Community
• [ 25:00 ] Finding World Class People to Surround You.
• [ 30:05 ] Responsibility and Backwards Law.

Takeaways:

• Men need a space to veer them away from the old paradigms that aren’t working for a lot of men, leaving them unhappy, unsatisfied and unmotivated. Men need role models as well, these types of spaces podcasts, events, communities and groups are absolutely essential to a man’s growth and development.
• In the last few decades, the power and responsibility of social change have shifted. In our modern era businesses are the ones who are dictating how our societies are changing and shifting, how they look, businesses are shifting the way we live our lives at a fundamental level. It makes sense that people are looking to entrepreneurs as agents of change. People want to have a direct impact on the people they care about the most. Entrepreneurs are looking at some of society's biggest problems and finding ways to fix them, even the simple everyday problems.
• Honest Audit: Taking an audit of your life, looking at the areas that are working exceptionally well and those that truly aren’t working. The areas to inspect are business and career, family, personal health, finances, mindset, getting an honest assessment of the positives and the negatives. Identifying who you can connect with and come clean with about some of those truths that you have been unwilling to talk about.

Resources:

• The Billion Dollar Body Facebook Group.
• Man Talks.

In honor of Nicholas’ 26th birthday today Nicholas is sharing with us stories and life lessons he’s learned throughout his life, from honing in on his life vision, to making health a top priority, finding discipline in your finances while still living the life you’ve dreamed, and the value of investing in lifelong relationships.

Timestamped Show Notes:

• [ 03:58 ] No Training Wheels: Foundations of Success.
• [ 07:34 ] Family Roles and Living Within Your Means
• [ 13:11 ] Commitment and Decisions.
• [ 14:51 ] Education is Freedom and Power.
• [ 20:16 ] Vision: Step One for Life.
• [ 21:25 ] Mentors, Self Investment, and Growth.
• [ 29:15 ] Fear vs. Opportunity

Takeaways:

• “When I was two years old my dad pushed me down a hill on my bike without training wheels.” Without training wheels falling is okay, is there a higher chance of falling, or failing, or getting hurt? Yes. No one has ever gotten stronger by using a crutch. Training wheels are definitely a crutch, it keeps from falling but it also keeps you from learning how to balance. It won’t help you in the long run but it will keep you from getting hurt. “My dad realized that I wouldn’t have training wheels for the rest of my life.” Stop using training wheels in your own life, they keep you from falling but also keep you from learning. How can you fail fast and move on faster?
• There is a big difference between commitment and passion. There is also a big difference between responsibility and passion. You can be passionate about something that isn’t your responsibility. In that case, it’s okay to go out and try new things. But when you have key things that are your responsibilities that's when you make the commitment, when you don’t feel like doing something you still follow through in doing it.
• Education gives you the power to control your circumstances to change them for the best. “You aren’t fat, fat doesn't define who you are. You aren’t broke.” Broke and fat are just things you are experiencing right now. Can it change? Absolutely. As you get educated you can change and learn.
• Finding you're ultimate vision is step one for life. What transformation do you want to create for the world or your life? What are the different ways that will get you there? You may not know all the answers, but you may know the ones that won’t get you there. It’s easy to say “I know my ultimate vision and this isn’t going to get me there.” As Les Brown says, “I’d rather be prepared and opportunity never come than opportunity come and not be prepared.”
• “I’d rather do what I know is right and fail than do what I know is wrong and succeed.” Stop doing things that you hate to look good in front of everyone else. When you start living with the mentality “I don’t care if I fail in front of everyone as long as I don’t fail myself, I’m doing what I should be doing.” you’ll start having the biggest breakthroughs of your life.

On today’s episode Rob Gregg shares the powerful story behind his company Rob McAllan, a shoe company that is reforming the way businessmen and entrepreneurs dress and present themselves. Rob talks about being a GQ Insider and how fashion and presentation can launch you into the next level of your own personal brand and lifestyle.

Timestamped:

• [ 2:24 ] Fashion and Presentation.
• [ 3:25 ] Rob’s Backstory and Roots.
• [ 6:00 ] Why Shoes? A Daily Need.
• [ 9:10 ] A Life Worth Building.
• [ 12:20 ] Rob McAllan Brand: The Legacy Story of Courage.
• [ 17:10 ] Giving Back: Rob McAllan Man of The Year.
• [ 20:48 ] For the Community: A Message.
• [ 23:00 ] Finding Mentorship and Your Community.
• [ 27:30 ] GQ Insider
• [ 30:30 ] Vision Moving Forward: Product and Brand.

Takeaways:

• There used to be a time when men and women stood for something, they were willing to fight for something bigger than themselves, they were willing to wait, they were willing to invest, they had the courage to do things that may not seem safe but they knew in their hearts was right thing to do and was going to lead them to a much greater outcome than a similar and safe lifestyle. With the current generation, our heroes aren’t athletes like they used to be, the heroes of today are entrepreneurs and activists and business leaders, people who are willing to take big risks and come out on top. The Rob McAllan brand is built around the legacy of a family and a time when people walked with courage, “I’m a Rob McAllen man, I wake up and I walk with courage.”
• At the end of the day, people are animals: we are the most visibly popular species on the planet. We have the strongest survival instinct of any other species. We fight for comfortability. But if we allow ourselves with the opportunity to be uncomfortable with no other alternative than to move forward you will be surprised at how creative and innovative you can be. You’re always going to find a way to make it work. Allow yourself the opportunity to step into the unknown. Have courage and surprise yourself with your innovation. Don’t settle for a safe and similar environment.
• When you find people that have a passion and positive energy it’s taken in such a different manner. That’s been my key to success, surrounding myself with the right people who can share in my success and I can share in their, sharing stories to learn from. Overall our vision is about looking up not down.      

Resources:

• Goal Setting Worksheet.
• Facebook Community.
• Rob McAllan Brand.

In today’s episode, Nicholas talks with Rob Fajardo, host of the Leave Normal Behind TV Show. Rob has helped companies like Red Bull master their message on social media, making them an influencer. Rob gives us tips to market on social media, organically build in followers, as well as gain massive influence.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

• [ 4:54 ] Question Based Problem Solving
• [ 7:25 ] Content Creators and Value
• [ 11:30 ] 4 Stages of Human Development.  
• [ 13:30 ] Influencer Competence in Branding.
• [ 23:10 ] Building a Following.
• [ 27:31 ] Commitment and Accountability.
• [ 32:08 ] Limiting Beliefs.
• [ 37:55 ] Masterclass.

Takeaways:

• How do I become someone that has influence? Question-based problem solving is important because the people that are doing the best in their life have removed emotions from their problem solving and are instead solving problems with questions. “What do I want? What do I have now? What do I need to do?” Being question based as an influencer gives you the opportunity to seek out the value you have to offer to others that they can buy into. A lot of companies wrap up a good message in poor product.
• Create content around the things that you already know, this way you don’t leave influence or money on the table. How can you ever expect anyone to know what you know if you aren’t giving them the opportunity because you aren’t creating the content to share what you know, your experiences, and add value.
• Unconscious incompetence: Unaware of you're incontinence. Consciously Incompetent: Aware of where you are incompetent and undedicated. Your success may not mean as much because you know that you could do more to make your success better. Conscious Competence: Consciously aware of becoming more competent. Unconsciously Competent: Who you are and what you do is streamlined that your competence comes effortlessly.
• A personal brand is your name, what you post on Facebook, Instagram, any form of social media is your personal brand content. Now you have to ask yourself if you are going to put effort into this, are you going to be competent. Repurpose what you learn, read and consume, what it is and how it makes you feel. You don’t have to create content from scratch, you can use anything that inspires you and reuse it. Share strategies that have helped you in your own business. Reframe your mindset, content is happening to you all day, film it while it’s happening, document it, share it.

Resources:

• Rob’s Masterclass
• The Billion Dollar Brotherhood Site and Facebook Group.
• New Year BDB Goal Worksheet.